When you fall which way do you fall?
It may seem like an odd question, trivial or just silly. However, there is a reason I ask. We all meet adversity – every single one of us. Some people respond with what is called above-the-line behavior. This type of behavior involves ownership, accountability and responsibility. Some people are below the line. They will respond with blame, excuses and denial.
We have all been on both sides of this line. We have been knocked down, we have felt distraught, we have felt helpless. At some point in time when we have been below the line, we have had to pick ourselves up and take ownership of what happened, hold ourselves accountable and make the realization that it is our responsibility to change things.
It’s easy to find blame, create excuses or live in denial of a situation. The longer we stay there, the more stuck we become. We will become increasingly negative, we will seek to blame in more situations, we will find more excuses as to why something is unachievable, and we will deny the hard work of others.
There are many people who live below the line and they would like more people there with them. What you put out is what you get back, right? You may prefer negativity breeds negativity. I have told people for a long time that happiness is a choice. That you need to actively pursue it as it does not just come to you. It takes work and it involves being above the line.
What you say and do is of your own free will. In saying that, make sure you speak with integrity. Only say things that you mean. Do not use your word to speak against yourself or to gossip about others. Use your word to go in the direction of positivity, love and truth.
How you feel about a situation is completely up to you. You cannot allow someone to have an impact on your emotions unless you allow it. Nothing anyone else does is ever because of you. What they say and do are projections of their own reality and their own dreams. When you are immune to the opinions and actions of others, you will no longer be a victim of needless suffering.
Everything you do or do not do is your responsibility. Do not assume; ask. Find the courage to ask questions and express what you really want. Communicate clearly with others as you can avoid sadness, drama and misunderstandings. DO NOT ASSUME. Too often people assume they KNOW. I assure you that you do not know.
Always do your best in everything that you do. Your best will change from day to day. There are so many factors that will have an impact on what your best is, but in every moment be your best, not someone else’s.
When you fall which way do you fall? Do you fall forward and pick yourself up and carry on? Or do you fall backward and then begin to question, cower, blame and excuse your way through?
The reality you experience is the one you are creating every single day with your thoughts, actions and everything you put into all of your interactions.
Choose wisely what you want to put out into the world. It will dictate what you attract, what you get back.